First off, I would like to commend you for your efforts to be there for your child. I know it’s very frustrating and nerve-racking when the other parent frustrates visitation. I have taken my ex to court on several occasions for this reason.
I can relate with you on the Judge not doing anything when the other parent violates the order. I am the NCP and we have shared parenting. I think the court system calls it joint custody. Anyway, we are separated by 1500 miles and this causes problems during visitation.
The best thing I can tell you is remain a part of your child’s life and give it time. As I am sure you are aware, maintain a consistent relationship with your child. I know at times it may not seem like it is worth your time and you may feel like “giving up” but remember kids are worth it.
I wish you the best of luck and hope in time the situation resolves itself. A lot of it is both parents have to set aside their differences and be there for the kids. However, tension is still there between parents and it turns into a nasty situation.
Just remember that in situations such as these, there are no winners. Maybe the lawyers if you want to look at it that way. But, it is our jobs as parents to raise our kids in the best environment regardless if the parents are together or not.
The child needs both parents – mommy and daddy. I wish you the best of luck in your case!
“Regardless of my not wanting to drag the child into this, it is my job, not only as a father, but also as a US Citizen, to do whatever is necessary to protect my child”.