I read your message and my heart goes out to your husband. My ex-wife is a prime example of PAS if there ever was one. She grew up a spoiled rich girl and now expects the world to cower at her feet. She constantly tells my 9 year old son that I don’t love him, care for him and usually in the most vile and profane terms she can muster.
It is her contention that because I abide by our consent order and demand that she does too I am hurting our son. Luckily for me I provide the primary residence for our son so I can try to allay some of his doubts and fears. I fear in the long run, just like any brainwashing some grain of doubt may actually take hold.