How did you get the court to share transportation

hi, I’m new here – how did you get the court to share transportation of the children for visitation? my ex-wife won’t pay for anything, and i have to break my neck to travel by plane cross country fitting it into a work schedule, and renting cars and staying at relatives houses and asking them for favors, etc, to get my kids, then to bring them back, i have to do it all over again, because we live so far away from each other. yet, they’re reviewing the support order, and the hearing officer listed things he’d take into account, …